We’ve all been there: you set off for a lovely dinner at a restaurant—perhaps with good friends, family, or that special someone—only to discover at the last moment that your wallet is nowhere to be found in your pocket or bag. As awkward as it may feel, nearly all of us have experienced that moment at least once.

A common mistake differs from a real issue in how often it happens. If someone happens to “forget” their wallet just once, it’s probably just a simple oversight. If they keep doing it over and over, and only when the bill comes, it’s natural to start questioning if there’s something more intentional happening.

This is exactly the situation faced by a woman on Reddit’s popular “Am I The A*****e?” (AITA) forum, where many individuals seek outside opinions on their complicated and often emotional relationship issues. In her post, she shared the story of her relationship with her boyfriend, which has lasted for nine months.

He has two daughters from a previous relationship, and the four of them have created a weekly tradition: they go out to eat together once a week. At first glance, this seems like a lovely family activity. She’s trying to connect with his kids, demonstrating her respect for their relationship, and aiming to create a positive atmosphere. It seems that every time we go out, things wrap up on a bit of a downer—the boyfriend has picked up this strange habit of always “forgetting” his wallet.